In response to nph11, I agree that “deconstructing sex, sexuality, and gender, only to reconstruct various subgroups of basically the same makeup seems to be a lost battle.” I don’t think the problem here in our society is that people do not “fit in” with our standards of normal gender, and we should not try to solve this by trying to reconstruct gender. By doing that we are only re-enforcing our own faults of being exclusive.
The problem is that we, as a society, are not aware that different means different. We fail at carrying out the most basic and important set of mind, idea, or attitude that the fathers of this country wanted for us, tolerance. We can think that we are doing the right thing by deconstructing and then reconstructing gender in order to accommodate ”all” other genders/sexuality, but what we do not realize is that, no matter how many we decide to “create,” 6, 7, even 100, there will always be more. There is no way for society to accommodate for all the difference, and that is what makes us more alike than we are different, because we all are so different from one another, that we are brought together in our differences. However, because we fail to acknowledge difference and only focus on who are the same, there is this implied hierarchy that keeps our society separated.
A good question would be as Jamie termed it, “what’s next?” What is next for the future of sexuality? Because gender has been instilled in society since day one with the fact there are only two genders, it is something that will take not just time, but understanding, for things to change, that is if things change at all. Many of us are scared of change, scared to stray from what we know to be fact, especially something that has been seen as “natural” to us since we can remember. It’s like when Copernicus introduced heliocentricity, disproving geocentricity, but no one believed him because the fact that the Earth was the center of the universe was something that was just so basic and known to all as normal, until Copernicus came up with his theory. In this same way, the thought of gender not being “natural” will baffle the minds of everyone and most people will argue or refuse to believe it. But with time and understanding, beliefs may begin to change, which will eventually lead to the acceptance of truth. And that is that everyone is different, and “natural” or “normal” does not exist physically, but only in our minds.